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My best friend once told me (in her 'I've been studying this material endlessly for my midterm, so I know what I'm talking about' voice) that there are no truths, just theories that have been proven false. Maybe nothing is an exact science, if so life and love are definitely no exception.People always say the key to every good relationship is communication, and whether or not we're socially or genetically programmed to be this way I've come to realize something about most men and women. As much as I hate to generalize most of the women I know believe that the first step to connecting with someone is talking (them to death) and most men I know are more inclined to communicate through sex, and prefer to talk via the pillow. I can't count the number of times I've heard the 'you can't sleep with him until you know his middle name, birth date, favorite color, (insert alleged personality defining characteristic here),' a rule that once fulfilled never seemed to actually save any of the relationships I know from the 'crash & burn' disaster that was ahead.
What I'm really talking about are the dating rules: the theories about how to get what you want from love and life - if you missed my memo earlier: we'll never be able to prove these theories true.
Ever wonder what's wrong with these expectations? Why don't we just say what we mean and do what we want? If we were more open about what we wanted from the other person wouldn't we be better off? Relationships are complicated enough, why do we add this dishonesty into the mix?
One of my favorite quotes is: "Once the wheel of love is set in motion there are no rules and no order," which is what a relationship really is... For all the theories people have thrown out about love, just like science, all we've done is dispell and develop a bunch of fallacies. Life happens, and whether or not she sleeps with him on the first or second date, or he opens the door for her and picks up the check aren't in reality what makes or breaks a connection.
That's all she wrote...For Now
